Article by Wendy McCance
I have a question for you. What type of socializer are you? I had never given this much thought until a conversation I had with my daughter today. She mentioned that she enjoyed being in large crowds of people where she could bounce from one person to another and chat in an easy laid back way.
It got me thinking about my own preferences. I enjoy small groups. Hanging out one on one is what I prefer the most. It’s not that I don’t enjoy big get togethers, it’s just that I enjoy the conversations that take place in a more personal setting better.
When I am in a large group, the conversations seem more superficial. Everyone saying hi to each other, lots of smiles and laughter, but nothing very meaningful. In a small group or when I am just visiting one individual, I tend to come away with a feeling of connection that I don’t around vast amounts of people.
My daughter intrigues me. She finds it hard to have those deep meaningful conversations and large groups gives her the comfort of not having to go to deep trying to fill empty spaces with meaningful words. In small group settings, she freezes up and doesn’t know what to say. Her explanation is that it’s easier to dance on stage for a full house than dance for just one person.
I on the other hand live for the opportunity to really know each person I surround myself with. I want to feel that I know more than a favorite color or activity. I want to know a person’s soul. I’m not sure why I have a need to know people so personally, but there just seems to be a disconnect when I look at someone’s face and have no idea what might be going on in their head.
It makes me wonder how the general population feels. Am I too intense? Is my daughter too closed off? I understand that my daughter does value deep conversations with a select few. I understand that if a topic is hit on that she is passionate about, you will learn everything about her feelings on that subject.
The part I find most fascinating is that I would have guessed that she is the extrovert and that I am an introvert based on are preferences of participation in large groups. The opposite is actually true. My daughter is very shy although she can pull off a show of confidence in big group settings. I am somewhere in the middle, but you can always tell how I feel in each and every situation I am in.
So my question to you is what is your opinion on this subject? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Do you enjoy large or small gatherings better? Are you the type that gets into deep conversations or do you enjoy a lighter atmosphere? Let me know in the comments below. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic.